“Laughter is the best medicine”
Research has found that Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease. Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain. That sounds great right? How can you laugh when you are traumatized? You can’t at first. The first time I laughed after Zachary died, I felt so guilty. How could I laugh? Then I thought about what Zachary would want. He would want me to enjoy life and laugh. He was a funny kid who loved to make us laugh after all.
One habit I have adopted over these last few years is stilling with my husband and telling funny Zachary stories. I don’t care if we repeat them, which we of course do. It feels good to remember the funny things he did. Here’s a few examples that I love –
When he thought the angel on top of the tree was the tooth fairy.
When he had to make tin foil hats to keep the government from reading his brain.
When he told me he didn’t need any supervision because the doctor already told him he had Super Vision.
Just to name a few.
Grace has her own silliness that I enjoy laughing with. The laughter is freeing to my soul knowing he would be laughing to. I mean, the unicorn outfit alone, that is funny.
Grief and laughter are not common partners but finding a balance with both will allow life to grow.